There’s an old cliché that goes something like God gave us two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we talk. Have you heard some variation of that?
I think it really should be more of a suggestion than cliché because we like to talk more than anything. I know I try to listen, but I prefer to do the talking. That’s why in 2014, let’s stop talking!
We all have one (or twenty) people in our lives that talk at you instead of with you. Do you know someone like that?
Instead of discussing to learn something or to better understand other people, they ask you questions in order to prove a point or tell you why you’re wrong. Similar to “handshake guy” who only takes your hand in order to dominate the classic sign of equality among individuals, “talk at you guy” talks in order for you to listen.
Our modern world is so very loud. TV’s are droning on in the background of waiting rooms, everyone has an opinion on everything, and social media simply amplifies it all. Things are as noisy as ever! Yet, bucking the trend might be a worthwhile goal.
I’m not here to complain about a noisy culture, others can speak to that point. Instead, I want to speak to individuals within the society and offer a thought to ponder. Perhaps we need to listen to others more and understand where they’re coming from before we give our opinion.
I am certain that I have talked way too much and need to heed my own advice here. This year, I hope you join my aim of talking at people less and dialoguing with them more.
How do you listen more?